YOU are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with.

So this little statement from a motivational speaker is doing the rounds again and it has in the past made me feel interested, and uneasy at the same time. Mostly because I have spent the majority of the past 14 years as a mother in the home. I also work from home and have contact across phone, skype and internet to clients.

“YOU are the sum of The 5 people you spend the most time with.

You are the average of how happy, well and successful these 5 people, including yourself, are.

HOW these people are influences your health and success.”

I have observed others and myself on this topic a lot recently.

Apparently as a mother I am an average of this team I will now introduce to you: hold on to your hats! There’s my 12 year son, my 14 year old daughter, my mother and my grandmother who is 91! And my best, dearest and oldest friend from the age of three. We went to the same kinder, primary and secondary schools every day together and have remained connected and a huge part of one another’s lives.

As a mother, I plan to spend a lot of time with these guys moving forward. It is really working out for me as I see it.

But if I plan to be influential and successful in my work and private life am I not meant to somehow be hanging with those that are wealthier, happier and more influential in my field of expertise?

None of my main influencers are movers a shakers on a massive public scale, at least not yet. But they do hold strong virtues.

While I watch many of my peers manoeuvre themselves toward overt influencers, at the top of their game in their areas of specialty, I wonder if this would serve them any better?

I will take my perfect lot any day of the year.

MY main 5 have integrity, loyalty and compassion. They are hard working, funny, they show up, they are real and they are mine and I am proudly theirs.

Oh and they love me.

SO, I feel loved and loving.

I feel home.

I feel secure.

The greatest base from which to be my best.